How To Be Magnetic: Cultivating Magnetic Presence
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Today we’re going to talk about how to be magnetic and cultivate magnetic presence, and I’m going to be sharing from my personal experience. What actually worked for me and what was so powerful. This is especially applicable for type A high achievers, leaders, entrepreneurs, artists, executives.
Why Would You Even Want Magnetic Presence?
So, why would you even want magnetic presence? Well, first, magnetic presence allows you to attract opportunities so much easier.
Expansion vs. Contraction
You are an energetic being. You are always in a contracted or an expansive state. So when we are in a expansive state, we are attracting to us people at the same resonance.
This is what we want. When we are in a contracted state, sometimes we’re not attracting anyone. We’re in our little cocoon. Understanding that we are always in a flux in this world of expansion and contraction.
The Culture of Hustle
We are always fluxing and one of the things that takes away from our magnetic state is the way that we are living and operating. This is especially prevalent in North America where we are often on the go, where we reward busy, where we reward hustling. Not that there’s anything wrong if that’s something that you like.
But from my own experience, one of the things that was groundbreaking that I stopped doing that helped my magnetic presence was stopping the overworking.
When Dullness Signals a Shift
I started to realize I had become dull. I remember looking at myself in a video. I just started to notice that my skin looked a little bit lackluster, that my eyes were looking a little bit lackluster, and I just seemed to be dull.
I didn’t have this vibrancy today. And I was tired a lot. So, I had to do an assessment first.
Audit Your Energy and Time
Where is all my energy going? Where is my vibrancy? Where is my life force energy going?
A lot of it was going to all these things I was doing daily that were sucking my energy. A lot of these things I didn’t need to be doing. A lot of these things weren’t connected to the results that I want.
Highest-Leverage Work vs. Busy Work
This is one of the critical things that we do in the magnetic leadership accelerator, which is getting clear. What task can you let go of? And what are the highest leveraged tasks you can be doing to get to your results?
Because when we are doing a whole bunch of this and a whole bunch of that and we’re going around and our heads spinning around, this is vital life force that we are putting out to things that are not giving us any of the results that we are looking for. And you will see it on your body. I saw it on my face.
I could see it. I could see it in my skin tone. I could see it in my eyes.
What the Audit Revealed
So, the first thing I did to get back my magnetic presence was do an audit of my day, do an audit of my time. And if you’re interested in learning more about how I work with clients to do their audits, you can head down to the description, book a power play call or apply for the magnetic leadership accelerator.
Know Where Your Focus Goes
So you have to understand where your energy is going, where is your time going, where is your focus going? And then you can know by process of elimination, by reverse engineering, what are the action steps, what are the tasks, what are the things I’m doing that are just sucking my energy and not producing any of the results that I desire or that I’m getting.
Reduce Morning Screen Time
So that was the first thing that I did. The next thing that I did that was taking away my vital magnetism, my energy source was I stopped so much screen time particularly in the morning. So no phone, no phone in the morning, no grabbing it and start scrolling.
And for for me and what I recommend to my clients is keep it out of the room.
Keep the Phone Out of the Room
Don’t just rely on willpower. You have to understand that there’s a part of your brain that wants to pick it up. It wants that hit of dopamine first thing in the morning.
So if you have it right next to your bed, you are asking to get into a battle first thing in the morning, a battle of brain and a battle of willpower. Keep it out of your room. If you use it as an alarm, it’s time to invest in a new alarm.
Ideally, something if you can that’s not hooked up to any kind of Wi-Fi. That’s a whole different story. That’s a whole different episode.
but clearing that in your space. So eliminating excess screen time that is not necessary for your work. Now I work online.
Clarify, Outsource, Eliminate
A lot of the work that I do is in front of a screen. So I have to get clear what needs to be done, what can I outsource and what can just be eliminated. Again, this goes back to the audit.
It goes back to getting clear. What am I doing that is not actually leading to the results that I want? And we spend far too long scrolling.
Set Digital Boundaries
You have to really understand what your triggers are. What are the boundaries that you need in place? I know for myself, if I have certain social media apps on my phone and I go in them, I’m going to be scrolling.
I’m going to get lost in it. It’s not good enough for me to say, “Oh, I’m only going to go in there and check something. ” I know from my patterns and from being honest with myself that if I go in, I’m going to get hooked and I’m going to start unconsciously swiping and 10 minutes later realize, “Oh my god, what what am I doing here?” They need to be eliminated from your phone or put them in a secret compartment on your phone with a password to make it very hard to get into.
Some of the apps I have on my phone because I need to have them certain posting only works well with the phone. But I know the apps that do not work well with me in my system, they are not there or they are hidden. They are not easily accessed.
Stop Worry Loops and Rumination
The next thing I stopped doing was ruminating over worry loops. When you’re ruminating over worry loops, when you’re stressing out about things you cannot control, your life force energy is draining. When you are in a place of surrender, of trust, trusting, you can trust your vision, trusting you are being supported, if you are a leader, if you are an entrepreneur, if you’re an executive, and you are heart-c centered, you are purpose- driven and you are working towards a goal or a vision that also supports, right?
collective that is not there to hinder and hurt the collective. You can trust that you are going to be supported. You can let go of the control that I know that you like to have because I like to have it.
My clients like to have control. But what does control do? It takes up bandwidth in your mind, in your energy field.
This is not magnetic. When you are worried and you are going around in loops over and over again ruminating about what ifs, what if this goes wrong? What if this happens?
I’m scared to do this. I’m scared to do that.
Interrupt the Loop
This is not magnet. This is not feeding the magnetism. This is taking away from the magnetism.
So what I did was a practice when I felt the rumination coming right. I bring down a stop sign in my mind’s eye right here. I can see it in my mind’s eye.
Stop. I’m not pushing it away. I’m not trying to suppress it.
Just saying, you know what? Stop. It’s not serving me.
It’s not serving my goals. Letting it go. What is going to serve me better right now?
What thought patterns are better?
Think Magnetic Thoughts
Your thought patterns are part of your energetic field. If you want to be magnetic, you have to start thinking magnetic thoughts. So, what are magnetic thoughts?
Well, who are the people you love being around? Who are the the people you love calling and inviting to your parties, to get togethers? If you go somewhere, who do you immediately find?
If you go, you’re going to a get together or party, who do you love speaking to, this person is magnetic? They are magnetic to you. What are the what are the things that they are saying?
Now, I’m not talking about the person that you seek out who is in resonance with the same fears or worries as you or someone that you like to gossip with because we can be attracted to that as well if we are in a state where there those patterns are present. That’s not the magnetism I’m talking about. I’m talking about the magnetism of someone where you leave their presence and you feel good.
Your energy is raised. You’re like, “Oh, you know what? We weren’t really talking about anything that specific, but I feel good.
I feel good.” I can tell you if you are feeling like this, that person has certain thought patterns. What are they saying to themselves? What are the magnetic thoughts you can start to say to yourself?
What are things that you love hearing from other people? Start saying those things to yourself. Start having thought patterns that are supportive, that are encouraging.
thought patterns of when you were speaking to yourself in ways that you would speak to your younger self, encouraging them, telling them that you believe in them, that you can’t wait to see what they are creating, that you appreciate their leadership, that they’re doing a great job. These thought patterns are so much more magnetic than worry loops and worrying on what could go wrong.
Fuel Your Body and Move
Another thing that I did to immediately shift my energy and my magnetism is I started to fuel my body and I started to move my body in ways that felt good. And I started slow. I started slow.
Start Slow and Listen to Your Body
I didn’t I didn’t put in a intense new workout routine. I I simply started moving my body in ways that felt good, such as walking, dancing. I fueled my body with fresh pressed juices, smoothies.
One of the best investments I’ve ever made in myself is my high-speed blender. Because a month after making these smoothies, I started to notice all these differences in my body. I started to feel more alive again.
Now, take what resonates, leave the rest. Everybody’s body is different. Everybody needs different things.
I’m simply sharing what worked for me. What may work for you may be different, but for me having that live food smoothie and I put lots of greens, I put fruits. When I do juices, I do fruits and I do vegetables.
I mix it up. I do different things. I really listen intuitively to my body when it comes to this.
I don’t overthink it. I don’t over plan it. I just get it in my body.
My body does really well with live foods. You have to test what works for you, but understanding what fuels you, what makes you feel the most magnetic and giving yourself more of that.
Treat Your Body as a Vessel
So really treating your body as a vessel because we can do the inner work, we can do the mindset work, we can do practices like communication practices, communication tactics, but if your body is not feeling magnetic, then you’re not going to exude it. Now you do with what you can with how your body is. You start with where you are.
When you think of walking into a room and heads are turning, not just because of what you look like, but your energy and people want to come up and talk to you.
Be Interesting: Hobbies and Big Dreams
Why would they? Think about it. Why would they want to come and talk to you?
Who do you need to become to be a person that people want to come and talk to? Well, you have to be doing things that are interesting. So, you have something to talk about.
So, for me, because I had been working so much, I had no hobbies. I had nothing I was doing for fun. Sure, I could talk about work, but quite frankly, not a lot of people want to hear about it, and I don’t want to talk about it all day long.
So I had to start finding things that I wanted to do. Bringing in new hobbies like practicing my ukulele, practicing singing, doing my artwork.
Reignite Big Goals
Also, what’s really really magnetizing is setting big goals, going after a big dream. So when I first started my business, I had really big goals. Somewhere along the way, they kind of dimmed a little and I got lost in the busy work.
So I had to tap back in and ask myself, what are these dreams again that kind of got lost in the way? Some of them I had already achieved, but some of them got lost.
Realign With Your Values
And one of the reasons they got lost was because they were no longer in alignment. So part of the work was getting me to a place where I was in alignment again with those big dreams, my big vision. And it started with getting crystal clear.
What were my values? I talk a lot about values. We talk a lot about values in the magnetic leadership accelerator because it’s the foundation of your alignment.
What Magnetism Really Is
To be magnetic is to be in full alignment with who you are, with your values, vision, your beliefs, and your desires. You become magnetic. You become someone who pulls to them.
opportunities, people. You become someone who naturally connects to the people, to the opportunity, to the places you need to be when you align your inner world with what you are calling in externally. This is magnetism.
People who want to be around other people who have big dreams, who are speaking with words that are encouraging, supportive, that feel good. Every word has an energy. Every word has a frequency.
A lot of people connect through challenge and struggle. A lot of people unconsciously connect through gossip or criticism.
Change Your Language and Circle
And it takes an awakened soul, an awakened being to recognize that, oh, you know, this pattern that I kind of fell into unconsciously that I got used to, everyone around me was kind of doing the same thing. It’s actually not supportive. It’s not supportive for me.
It’s not supportive for the people I’m talking to, and it’s certainly not supportive for my dreams and my goals. So, I have to change the language. I have to set boundaries.
I have to set boundaries with people who don’t want to change, who want to keep speaking and keep that limitation alive. And I have to find the people that I can have these conversations with that we can play off each other’s magnetism, and we can expand it like a frequency, right? We can expand the magnetism.
Conclusion and Next Steps
So to wrap it up to work on your magnetic presence is to truly work on your alignment. It’s to work on your fulfillment. It’s to work on your abundance, your wealth path.
It’s to work on your purpose path. It’s to work on how you impact people, how you influence people, the opportunities you get, the opportunities you’re offered. It’s not just a fancy word.
It’s not just a nice word. Oh, my magnetism. It’s an energy.
It is a presence. The first step is letting go of everything that is taking away that’s taking from that presence. And then it’s embodying and acting in accordance.
That may mean adding some things in to your day-to-day life that add to the magnetism. It’s always an inside job first and then we assess what needs to happen externally. Again, we do this all in the magnetic leadership accelerator.
If that’s something that’s calling to you, if you’re interested to learn how it can support your next stage of growth, your next stage of leadership, of building your business, of becoming the 10x version of yourself. Because in the accelerator, we go big. We dream big.
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