Hello, Facebook. Happy Monday. I decided to pop on, do a live audio on a little help on how to avoid the Monday trap. So what is the Monday trap? So the Monday trap is when an individual gets all pumped up about Monday, states the world, states to the universe that they are going to change everything on Monday. Monday is going to be the day where they start eating better, where they start working better, where they start showing up for themselves, showing up for their life, and they decide they’re going to change everything.
They’re going to be … It’s like a New Year’s Resolution every Monday. Okay. Maybe their week before was a little rocky. Maybe they had some feelings of self-sabotage going on, feelings of self-doubt, and they swear Monday is going to be different.
I know I’ve done this in the past. I’ve set myself for this Monday, drastic change, and when it doesn’t happen, it can be completely defeating and just set you on this cycle of starting and stopping and this yo-yo cycle of defeat. Because what happens is, and let me know if this has happened to you, it’s definitely happened to me before.
You set yourself up for this Monday, this amazing, spectacular, wake up on Monday morning, everything is going to be different. You’re going to jump out of bed and the whole world is going to be better. Everything’s going to be, and you psych yourself up and usually that weekend you start doing things. You start living life to the largest because suddenly Monday’s going to be different, and you eat the foods you say you’re not going to eat on Monday. You do everything you say you’re going to give up on Monday.
Then what happens is alarm clock goes off on Monday, you wake up, and your brain has not been set up properly and those old behaviors and old patterns come on so strong that they take over. All that motivation, all that pump up you felt before on the weekend, on Sunday, on Saturday, on the Friday before, you pumping yourself up and telling yourself everything’s going to change on Monday. Monday’s going to be the day. Monday I’m going to do it. Then suddenly nothing happens, nothing is different.
Those old patterns and behaviors of procrastination, of eating the wrong foods that you don’t want to eat anymore, doing the wrong things, having the mindset that’s kept you stuck for so long continued to happen. Nothing changes. Okay? What happens is many, many times is you start beating yourself up over it.
You start beating yourself up, telling yourself that you’re not good, that you’re a failure, that you can’t do this, why even try. Nothing going to change. You’re such a loser. This and that and on and on and on. Suddenly, you set your whole week up for failing with this self defeated talk, with the self defeated language because you basically set yourself up.
So what happens? How can you change this so you can make changes in your life. You can change what you want to be different. You can make those shifts, but in a way that’s going to be sustainable, in a way where you’re going to actually be able to make those shifts and not this almost … It’s almost like we’re … I can say this because I used to do it all the time. I used to plan. Everything was going to be different on Monday. Everything was going to be better. It’s almost like you’re diluting yourself.
You’re setting yourself up for failure because nothing you’re doing is different than the time before you did this and set yourself up that everything was going to change on Monday and then nothing change. Okay? So there is a different way of doing things where you’re actually setting yourself up for success, and it really has to do with doing the prep work before that day hits.
Now, some people … If you want to stick with Monday, it can be a great day to begin the week, but if you find that Monday is almost like a trigger, like you’re just coming off the weekend. Sometimes you can feel a little slower on Monday. Some people like to ease in on the week, ease back into the work week and what not. So why not switch it up, switch up your brain, switch up the pattern and do it on Tuesday. Okay? Certain things like that can make a whole world of difference, okay? It switches up the pattern. Pattern switching.
Next, I want you to actually ask yourself what am I going to do differently? Okay? What am I going to do differently? How am I going to make these new habits and patterns a reality? So not just telling yourself, “I’m going to do … Everything’s going to be different on Monday. Monday I’m going to wake up and I’m going to … Everything’s going to be completely better and I’m going to change my world. I’m going to change my world.”
I want you to actually journal this out, get specific. Grab a pen, grab a paper, grab your journal, whatever it is, and write out your plan. How are things going to be different? Am I going to wake up half an hour earlier? Am I going to begin my day with gratitude? Am I going to prepare different foods in my fridge? Am I going to have stuff ready so when those old behaviors and old patterns come on strong, I have something right there that’s going to be ready for me. So I don’t even have to think about it.
So when I used to train for marathons and I really wanted to be consistent with my training. I wanted to really get into that identity of a runner. I would have everything set up the night before. So when I woke up in the morning, I did not have to think about, “What am I going to wear? Where are my shoes? Where’s my jacket? Where’s my water bottle? Where’s all this and where’s all that.” Because when you set yourself up and everything ready and you don’t have to go through all that thought pattern, then those old habits and behaviors have less of a chance to sneak in and start controlling the show because habits, patterns, behaviors are strong.
You know when you wake up. I mean, half the time my mornings are so … They’re such habit. I have such a habit in my mornings. I can wake up half asleep and everything gets done. I don’t even have to really think about what I’m doing because I’ve created these habits.
Now, habits don’t care if it’s a positive habit or if it’s a sabotaging habit. Your habits don’t care what they are. They don’t know the difference if they’re negative or positive. So if you have habits that you consider to be hindering your success, then it’s up to you to really set the stage to create new positive habits. You do that by planning ahead. Don’t just go into the day stating to yourself, “Everything is going to be different.” That only goes so far. Okay? You need to strategically have a plan of what you’re going to be doing differently to start creating those new habits, those new behaviors so you can make your week a success. That goes with habits that you’re going to be doing, habits as in thinking habits. What are you going to be thinking? How are you going to change your mindset? How are you going to change your daily thought patterns? All this needs to be considered before going into that Monday. Setting yourself up on the weekend, doing some thinking, doing some planning, making time for yourself to really step into whatever your plan is for that week. Okay?
Now, what is your plan? I want you to ask yourself this too. What is your plan? What is going to be your game plan when old thoughts and behaviors step in because they are going to pop in. You’re old thoughts, you’re old thinking patterns are going to pop in. So anytime that I decide I’m going to say stop drinking coffee in the morning. So usually every morning I wake up, I’ll have my water, lemon water, and then I’ll have my coffee. Every time that I decide that I’m going to quit coffee … Now, I love coffee. I drink it, but sometimes my body pushes away from the caffeine. It doesn’t like the caffeine. It starts making me jittery. It starts aggravating my anxiety. So I decide to go off of it, but I know that when I wake up, I’m going to want that coffee. It’s not like I make a decision on Sunday that I’m not going to drink coffee tomorrow on Monday, and I’m not even going to want it. Of course I’m going to want it. If I’ve been drinking it for six months, 12 months prior, of course my body’s going to say, “I want you. I want that.” My mind’s going to say, “Oh. I want that coffee. I want that coffee in the morning.”
So what is my game plan when those triggers hit? When those thoughts hit? When I’m driving past Starbucks, or when I’m smelling coffee, someone else is making coffee? What am I going to do? So I want you to really think out what is your game plan? What are you going to start telling yourself? What is the mental game you’re going to start telling yourself? Whether it’s your why, reminding yourself why you’re making these changes, why it’s so important. Maybe it’s writing it down in a notepad, carrying that notepad with you so you can look at all the reasons why this is so important for you to make a change. Get prepared so when these things happen, you’re not just relying on motivation alone.
The brain is very powerful. Habits are very powerful. The brain loves habits. So you want to start creating new habits, but that’s not going to happen if you just go into the week trusting that everything’s going to be different, especially if you have a pattern of stating, “Monday I’m going to change everything,” then it doesn’t happen. If that happens a lot to you, then you got to do something differently or else you’re going to continue to get the same results. Okay?
So I hope this is making sense for you. If you have any questions, let me know. Other than that, I want to wish you a phenomenal Monday, a phenomenal week. It’s going to be a powerful week for people really ready to step into their power, to make the decision, commit to themselves that they want more from their life, from your career, whatever it is you’re working towards. I want to wish that for you.
If, again, you have any questions, please drop them in the comments section. I will be back to answer them later on. Other than that, have an awesome Monday, and make some changes. Grab your journal, grab your pen and paper, and really take some time to put the effort into plan out how you’re going to do things differently, how you’re going make those changes. Don’t just rely on your motivation alone. It only goes so far. It only takes you so far. Okay? And that’s it for today. I’ll talk to you guys soon. Ciao.