November 21 2017
Hi there, it’s Lisa from lisajeffs.com. If you’re new to me, I am a success coach and a healer and I work with men and women and help them move through their limits to create the life and business of their dreams. So, today my message to you is, this is one of the most common things I get when I work with my clients, one of the most common things I help them move through. And that is fear.
So how does fear stop us from moving forward? Fear is huge when we are stepping out of our comfort zone, when we are going after something we want, when we are doing something we’ve never done before. Fear comes in because what is fear’s job? Fear’s job is to keep us safe. It’s whole thing is to keep us safe, but that often means keeping us in our comfort zone. But when we have big goals, when we have big dreams, we got to take those steps, we got to I won’t say face the fear but really allow the fear to … Feel it, we feel it. We need to feel the fear but be able to move through it, be able to move past the fear.
And one of the ways I do that, because believe me it’s not that I’m fearless, it’s not that I don’t feel fear when I’m going after my goals, it’s that I feel it, I understand it’s there to keep me safe but then I focus on the outcome, I focus on what’s on the other side of fear and I’m able to almost guide myself through that because I’m focused on what I want. I focus on exactly the outcome that I’m desiring and I don’t let those thoughts, “Well, what if this could happen? Well maybe that’s going to happen. Well, what if this is a complete disaster.” Because it’s those thoughts when they come in will literally paralyze you from moving forward.
Believe me, I’ve been there. I spent many years just paralyzed by anxiety, by overthinking, by social anxiety, by generalized anxiety and it was like I was a prisoner in my own mind. But I’m here to tell you that there are ways you can move through that, those feelings. Those things that you feel are just keeping you like this, keeping you held like this where you feel like a prisoner. Really you have everything in you right now to succeed. You have everything that you need. You came to this world with everything you need.
And one of the biggest things I see that helps my clients move through that fear is being okay with uncertainty, being okay with what may happen and not knowing exactly what’s going to happen but trusting in themselves and trusting in a higher power, trusting they are guided every step of the way. And really putting their feelings and that emotion into faith instead of fear. Fear doesn’t go away. Fear never goes away. People that you see that are super successful, maybe financially, or they have titles and you look up to them and you think, “Whoa, wow! I’d like to be like that someday.” It’s not that they don’t have fears. Humans, it’s natural for us to have fear. That’s okay. That’s not the problem.
But what they don’t do is they don’t dwell in those fears and they don’t let those fears take over what they really want to create in their life. So today I just want you to really be self-aware and ask yourself, “Are my fears stopping me from going after what I want? Are my fears getting in the way of something that I desire so deeply, so, so deeply on a soul level? Are those fears stopping me from moving forward?” And then asking yourself, “What is it going to take for me to be able to move through those fears, to be okay with feeling those fears but not letting them stop me from achieving what I truly desire?”
Because there’s that old saying, everything you want is on the other side of fear. Do I believe that everything you want is on the other side of fear? No, I don’t think everything you want is on the other side of fear but I do think that it’s powerful in saying that a lot of the stuff we desire, a lot of the bigger goals, the bigger dreams to really step into our power and live our purpose are on the other side of fear. And you just got to get really comfortable with feeling those feelings and being okay with uncertainty and moving forward. And that’s it, that’s what my message for you today.
I see from my clients what’s on the other side. I see when they are able to address those fears and be okay with feeling it but having faith that it’s all going to work out and it’s all going to be okay on the other side. And everything in this life is a learning journey. Everything we do is part of our journey. And no matter what happens, even if we take that step, we step out of our comfort zone and it’s a complete disaster, it doesn’t matter. We learned from it, we gained from it. We take that and we move forward in our next venture.
I can’t tell you how many things I’ve tried that have been a total flop and haven’t worked or I’ve stopped myself from going forward on something and I’ve racked my brain, and then when I finally go for it it doesn’t work out how I want. It’s okay. It doesn’t matter. You’ll get to the point that you want to get. The key is just to keep taking action and not let that fear stall you, to stop you in your tracks. Whether that’s a business venture that you want to pursue, whether that’s you just stepping into your purpose. You know you have a bigger purpose than you’re living right now. Maybe you want to speak, maybe you want to teach people, maybe you want to coach, maybe you want to start doing videos, whatever it is. Moving through that and understanding you were guided every step of the way and having that faith that no matter what outcome it is it’s going to be okay.
We often build things up in our mind as humans to being far worse than they ever are, far worse. Nothing in my life has compared to what I have built up in my mind that it could be, right? How we just build these catastrophes in our mind of what can happen, but really it never happens how bad that we think it could happen, okay? So my message for you today is really look at your life right now and decide who’s in control. Is it the fear or is it you? Okay?
We’re going into 2018. I know it’s going to be an amazing year for everyone really ready to step up into their power and live the life that they came here to live and the purpose that they came here to create in the world. The world needs you. You’re a creator if you’re a leader, if you’re a visionary. The world needs you and what you have to give. And people are waiting for that. So that’s it. That’s my message for you today. If you know anyone who could benefit from this message, share it with them. If you want to leave me a comment and continue the conversation, please leave me a comment. I love continuing the conversation. And that’s it. And I’ll talk to you guys soon. Ciao.