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If you want to have better opportunities coming to you, make more money, have a wildly enticing selection to choose from in the dating community.
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If you want to walk into a room and have everyone turn and look at you, now maybe that might terrify you depending on your personality, but if you want all these things and you want it in a very easy way, which is not about you working really hard to get any of these things then the key to this is to be more magnetic. Being more magnetic is your key to the castle. People love magnetic people. People want to be around magnetic people. People who are magnetic, are in their true authentic power state. Why are most people not magnetic and in their true authentic power state? Because they are operating in fear programs the majority of the day, because their nervous system has been hijacked and they are in fight or flight constantly. But in this episode, I’m going to start telling you things you can do today to be more magnetic and I will promise you, if you implement these things for the next seven days, you will notice a substantial difference in your life, in your work and in your relationships. Get ready, it’s going to be a good one.
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Tap into your power of an entrepreneur. Level up. Step it up because I believe. Find your purpose time to be a magnetic leader.
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Welcome to the show leaders. I am your host, lisa Jeffs, your coach, your intuitive. I work with top leaders, business owners, entrepreneurs, professionals, creatives who want a magnetic life and business and career. I’m going to share with you in this episode something really, really important, because I see a lot of people and, side note, you know, I think this got a lot worse when social media came on board, in particular, instagram A lot of people chasing this thing where they think they need to look a certain way, they need to act a certain way, they need to be a certain way, to be magnetic, to appear confident and carefree and lovable or whatever is going on in the world. It’s actually kind of crazy.
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Certain things that I’ve seen in the last few weeks. I’ve just been more hyper aware of the narrative in the beauty industry and the cosmetic I’m not even sure what it’s called. I have a lot of plastic surgeons on my Instagram and I’m very hyper aware of language that’s being used and there’s nothing. Again, I have nothing against plastic surgery or anything like that or any kind of cosmetic work or anything. I’ve been taking care and doing things with my own skincare since my 20s, in fact, I think even earlier than that in my teens, so this isn’t a judgment against any of that, but the language that I’ve been hearing being used is very detrimental. Talking about women’s and men’s faces, things that are happening to faces as they age, things that are going on as problems. Let me tell you something your sagging skin that is sagging over years of you being on this planet is not a problem. It is not something that needs to be fixed. If you choose that you would like to do something with it for your own self, that is a different story. But believing that there is a problem with anything on your body how you look, your shape, your size, the colors of your eyes I don’t know what’s going on with this eye color surgery, but listen, you do not need to be putting your eyesight at risk to change your color. That’s actually one that I have a problem with. I don’t think anybody should be doing that. To me, that’s insane, and I say that’s insane that the doctor shouldn’t be doing that. I understand why people get in their mind that they are not good enough the way that they are and they want to change it. I understand that my problem is with the doctors doing that, and I don’t care who you are or how much you say it’s safe. I don’t buy it. Anyways, I digress.
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I don’t want to go on a rant about eye color change surgery, but this belief, this mentality, is pulling us farther away from magnetism. You cannot be magnetic when you believe that there is something wrong with you. So have you ever met those people, the ones that can walk into a room and instantly you just feel their presence? Right, they’re not trying hard, they’re not. They’re not over explaining themselves, educating themselves, they’re not putting on a show, they just are. That is magnetism, and it’s not something that you have to be born with. Yes, there are children that are. Honestly, I think they’re just kind of born like that and you can see it from day one, but many people who are magnetic are not like that At birth.
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It’s something that you can create, and I’m going to start breaking down how you can create that type of unshakable presence without faking it, without forcing it, without waiting for it to magically appear. You can be the creator of this, in fact, the most magnetic person that I ever met and I talk about this person regularly because he’s a wonderful example that you don’t need to be what society says is the most beautiful version of a person. Mind you, different societies have different views and sometimes they are complete opposites of each other, which just shows you what kind of a sham the whole thing is. It’s just an illusion, right? It’s just perception.
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But this person was not like what society said was supposed to be attractive, confident, magnetizing. In fact, he was quite the opposite. Did that deter him from holding the energy of magnetism and magnetizing people towards him? He didn’t have a lot of money. He wasn’t dressed a certain way. He didn’t have the physical looks that society tells us we should have to be that attractive person. But what he did have was an unapologetic energy about him that shined through so much to where women would just flock to this man. Beautiful, gorgeous women that are aligned with society’s standards would be flocking to this man. And that is why I said he didn’t have money, because I know some people are thinking oh, he must have money, he must have money. That’s what it is. Nope, he was not wearing designer clothes. He did not, you know, try to fake being anyone but himself, and that’s what made him so unapologetically magnetic. People loved it.
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The fact that he walked in a room, the fact that he walked in a room like he. He knew he was the ish and he held his head high, his shoulders back in a very natural way, like this wasn’t something he was. I don’t even think he was consciously doing this. This was just him, wildly in his body, grounded presence. He wasn’t overthinking anything, he wasn’t thinking, he wasn’t trying to cultivate anything. He allowed that universal flow to just flow through him. He spoke from his heart. You could tell he wasn’t a person who held back. He was authentically himself and it was wildly magnetic. Wildly magnetic.
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Anyone on this planet can tap into that energy by simply being authentically them. When you are authentically you and I know some people are like I don’t even know who the heck I am, that’s okay, we’ll get into that when you are authentically you, you magnetize people. You, you magnetize people. People are magnetized by what they desire for themselves. I’ll say that again People are magnetized by what they desire for themselves. If you are holding within your energy something that is a part of someone else, but they’re not fully allowing themselves to embody that part, they are drawn to you. You will magnetize them. This is why so many people are magnetized by celebrities or rock stars. It’s not the rock star themselves. It’s what that rock star embodies, right? That sex appeal, or that musical mastery, that stage presence, right? People are magnetized by what you hold within you that they want. So when you are authentically you coming into a room, confident, head held high shoulders back, light, relaxed, allowing the flow of information to flow through you, you’re not overthinking what you’re saying, you’re not holding yourselves back, you’re just allowing. People want to be around that. They love it, they feel it, they feel the realness of it. It’s not fake, it’s not phony, it’s not cultivated, it’s not weird, it’s not this strange dystopia that can happen sometimes when you go down certain social media rabbit holes and you’re just like what is happening here. None of this feels real. It is magnetizing to be authentically you.
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Let me give you an example of when I completely fell out of my own magnetism by getting in my head and thinking I needed to be something that I wasn’t when I first started my business. I don’t know where it got in my head. Someone said something to me, or I just just had this belief within me, but I thought that I had to be uber, uber, like this very professional doll, like cardboard cutout of a person with no personality that you know. I ended up straightening. I remember I straightened my hair. I was like, oh, curly hair is like too much. I got to straighten my hair Neutral colors, by the way, my skin tone. I don’t look that great in neutral colors. They’re okay, but it completely washed me out. I had no nails on, like very neutral nail polish, like nothing. Mind you, the real me I love animal print, I love red lips, I love nails, I love eyelashes. I have big curly hair.
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I am not a neutral cardboard cutout, but I remember being in this feeling like I had to just keep showing up as this weird I’m not even sure dystopian professional lady. Dystopian professional lady until I remember I’m in bed and I’m just feeling into the energy of me in that moment and I’m thinking to myself what the hell have I been doing for the past months? Year, I’m not even sure if it was over a year I cannot do this anymore. I feel frumpy, dumpy, mumpy. I feel so ugh in my skin. Not only do I not feel magnetic, I feel the complete opposite of magnetic, I feel like I’m repelling people.
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The next day, I put my nails on, I put my lips on, I put my red lipstick on, and just putting on my nails and putting on my lips shifted the energy so much. It changed the way I started moving. It changed the way I showed up on camera. It changed the energy. I felt like, oh, a release. This is my authentic self and I remember that post that I did that day I think I did a video or a live actually. That post that I did that day I think I did a video or a live actually, I think, did I do a live Facebook and I got more comments than ever. I got more people responding to me. Why Not? Because I was faking something, cultivating something or trying to be some cardboard cutout lady, because I was in my authentic energy, right. So we got to put on our nails, we got to put on our lips.
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Please don’t take that literally. If you don’t wear nails and you don’t wear red lipstick, don’t put it on. That’s not authentically you. I’m using that as a mantra to be authentic to you, to be authentic to you, not trying to fit into a cardboard box. It doesn’t work. If you want to be magnetic, it doesn’t matter what you look like, it doesn’t matter what you’re dressing like. I know a lot of people will say you know, dress a certain way. Yes, obviously a certain way. Yes, obviously, when you dress a certain way, people respond to it. I’m not saying just lounge around in sweatsuits all day, however. You can lounge around in sweatsuits all over if that is true to you and you feel freaking amazing in it. You feel like your powerful self, and if you go out in that, people will respond. What I’m getting at here is it truly comes from the inside first. Magnetism is an inside job first, and then externally we can add to that first, and then externally we can add to that. We can add to that.
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So, using my example, when I was feeling frumpy and dumpy, it really had nothing to do with the external. What I had done. It was because inside myself, I had a belief that I couldn’t just show up as me. I had to change myself to fit in. I had to tone down certain things about myself because I thought that I would be perceived as quote unquote professional, which is really funny when I think back, because I have my own personal brand. So I don’t know why I thought I had to be professional. Like that doesn’t even. It’s not even connecting now, but at that moment it made sense to me. But putting on that lipstick and putting back on my nails it really wasn’t about the external. It was about me just saying screw it, it’s not even worth it. I’d rather be myself and have the whole business implode than try to be someone else to make it work. And, of course, when we are ourself, it works. We don’t need to be anyone else. Are ourself, it works. We don’t need to be anyone else.
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Being magnetic, you don’t need to chase anything you attract. Magnetic people are not in a desperate state state. They move like they already belong. They move like they can have anything that they desire. And I don’t mean that in a creepy way, I mean that in a universal way. If they are desiring something to create something in their life, they move like it’s already done. Desperate energy takes away from magnetism the difference between someone who blends in and someone who owns the room. It’s in their energy. It’s not their looks. It’s not their money, it’s not their title, it’s their energy. Yes, someone who has good looks according to society’s standards, has money, has a title. They can be magnetic, but it’s not because of those things, it’s because of their energy. But it’s not because of those things. It’s because of their energy.
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Magnetism isn’t about what you say. It’s about what people feel when they are around you. Remember you are mirroring something to them that they want within themselves Confidence, belief in themselves. Unapologetic I am the ish being magnetic. You don’t need to be so hyper on the go. I remember years ago I would just like be speeding down the highway warp speed, not even sure where I was going. Everything was just so fast. I had so many things I wanted to do. I was achieving all these things. Sure, it was great things. Sure, it was great, but that’s not magnetism. You can’t speed through life and be magnetic. Magnetic people don’t need to rush. They understand that they can go at their own pace what feels good to them. There is no rush because, again, they’re not chasing anything. They are attracting.
